fellas can we agree that NOBODY calls Obi-Wan just by “Obi” unless they were his crechemate, okay. that means Garen, Reeft, Siri, Bant, and Quinlan. that’s ALL. that’s IT. nobody else, no exceptions.
If you’re a parent and you decide to homeschool your child YOU are responsible for giving them an education that will benefit them into their adult life. YOU as the PARENT need to take the initiative to teach your child. Your child is not responsible for their own schooling.
Learning is HARD. Learning about math gets harder the more complex it gets, it is discouraging. If you are not prepared to help your child and encourage them to learn and understand difficult and advanced math, you should not homeschool.
It is HARD to learn history and names and dates and science and grammar structure when they want to play outside.
It is your job to teach them anyway. You have made the conscious choice to withhold your child from school and teach them yourselves. It is not your place to give up when your child doesn’t want to learn.
It is not your place to give your child schoolbooks and expect them to teach themselves.
The second you decide to take schooling into your own hands you do not get to pass that responsiblity onto your child.
You alone are responsible for teaching them things appropriate for their age. The older a child gets the more selective their interests may get. You can discuss them researching and learning more about that topic on their own , but you do not get to step away and let them handle the entirety of their own education.
You are responsible for teaching them.
My mother homeschooled me my whole life and while I know I’m not unintelligent by any means, I know there are some topics on which I am extremely ignorant because I was never taught about them.
My mother neglected my schooling and refused to put me in school even when I begged. I did not learn any history apart from her Jewish stories and the WW2 documentaries my older brother watched on TV.
All of my English is self-taught because of fanfiction.
I cannot do most forms of math, and rely heavily on google and have to use overly complicated ways to figure out numbers with my job.
I did not have any education in science until I reached 10th grade and found Khan Academy videos. All of my science has been self-taught.
My mother started every ‘school year’ by selecting ‘grade-appropriate’ books from the back closet of our house. They were all old, outdated, and heavily skewed towards extremeist Christian and Right-Wing views. I would be handed a pile of books and told to learn.
I was not taught. I did not have the capability, as a CHILD, to teach myself.
My mother gets mad when I state how I didn’t receive an education and says that it’s my fault because I didn’t want to learn.
She is wrong. It was not my choice, and it was not my responsibility to teach myself.
So, if you choose to homeschool a child, consider the fact that you will become parent and teacher. Your child may fight you because learning is HARD and BORING and the television or video games or YouTube is much more exciting and fun, but it is your responsibility as their TEACHER to teach them.
You don’t get to be tired and neglect their education. You made that choice and it is your responsibility.
“And remember: the sky is the limit! You can be anything you want to be!”
“Thank you. I want to be a secretary.”
That stopped them short. “What?”
“A secretary,” she repeated.
“But…” they trailed off, dumbfounded. “Why? You could be a CEO, a scientist, a law–”
“I don’t want to be a CEO,” she said. “I want to be a secretary.”
They scoffed. “You want to answer phones all day?”
She smiled. “Yes.”
“Schedule appointments?”
“I like organizing.”
“Be a second banana?”
An affirmative nod. “I’m skilled at helping.”
“I just don’t understand,” they said. “HOW could you be okay with all of this?!”
“I enjoy the work.”
“BUT YOU CAN BE WHATEVER YOU WANT TO BE!”
“I know.”
“Then WHY?!”
She shrugged.
“Because I want to be a secretary.”
Honestly though, this is very similar to my mom’s experience. She’s always been super bright, but has realized as she’s gotten older that intellectual pursuits just aren’t her jam. She dropped out of her PhD program to have kids, and although she has her master’s and was a pretty good school psychologist, she hated having to make huge decisions. She’s a church secretary now and loves it, and she’s GOOD at it; she’s letting her school psych certification permanently expire this year with zero regrets. If you can be anything you want, that includes the things we don’t tend to value as highly as a society. Not everybody is built for or wants the “respectable” careers.
My grandma did this to me, saying that i didn’t want to get stuck on the outside, making coffee and filing papers. The thing is, that’s exactly what I’ve always enjoyed the most, making and organizing things. That would be enough for me.
Nobody seems to realize that if you tell people they can be anything they want to be they will. And not everyone WANTS to be doctors or lawyers or CEOs or scientists. Sometimes, they just want to be a secretary.
it took me a LOT of therapy before i was able to shrug off the effects of the Gifted Child Upbringing enough to realize that what i really wanted to be was a house husband and Local Queerdad who writes novels sometimes. god, i’m so much happier now.
ain’t nothing wrong with an ordinary life. don’t let anybody tell you you have to be the top dog to be worth anything.
Redemption has to be possible and very obviously a real and tangible option for bad people, or else things can only get worse for everybody involved in any dispute, including large scale political and societal disputes.
If the only options given to a bigot are “remain a bigot and be treated like a bigot, or find a way to be a better person and change your mind but still be treated like a bigot,” they will fight violently like they are cornered, because socially speaking, they are.
Leftists are getting better at this then we have sometimes been, but we can still be better at this. I can be better at this. It is strategically advantageous and just the right thing to do that the door to redemption is made obvious and wide open.
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