fallowsthorn:

full-moon-phoenix:

akira-kurusu-loves-you:

If your child’s grades are dropping

DO NOT:

  • Yell at them for three hours
  • Take away their devices and look through them
  • Make them sit in their rooms in silent and do their homework alone
  • Side with the teacher and not get your child’s side of the story
  • Tell them that their grades are the most important thing they should worry about

INSTEAD:

  • Ask if they’re having trouble with other students or teachers
  • Sit down with them and help them with what they don’t understand
  • Speak calmly instead of yelling
  • Don’t invade their privacy by looking through their devices
  • Don’t take away their hobbies as punishment
  • Never make them feel unsafe or unable to trust you

This has been a message from a struggling high school junior that wishes their own parents actually did this stuff.

Bonus: Don’t look through their freaking backpacks. Chances are they know damn well they have loads of unfinished papers and the stress of knowing is so overwhelming they don’t even wanna look at it.

Don’t: Ask them over and over why they aren’t doing their work when they tell you they “don’t know.” They really, actually do not know. It is your job as a parent to help them figure that out, not to simply repeat that they should know, and that they’re very smart because when they do the work they get good grades. They know that. Odds are they’re as frustrated as you about it.

Instead: Ask what they would do if they no longer had to worry about school or schoolwork. If someone had asked me this when I was in high school I probably would have burst into tears. Your kid will try to tell you for probably years what they’re thinking and feeling, until they realize that you don’t care and aren’t going to help them figure it out. Don’t let it get to that point.

gffa:

This is one of the most telling moments for Obi-Wan’s character for two reasons:

1.  It’s something of a running theme that Obi-Wan would leave the Jedi Order if he felt the reason was important enough.
2.  Obi-Wan knew exactly how he felt about Satine and how he would have responded if she’d asked him to leave the Jedi to be with her.

This is not someone who was in denial about his feelings or thought that they didn’t have their place on certain paths in life.  This is someone who held back because he is pretty relentless about maintaining boundaries–he will not push her if she doesn’t feel the same way, he’ll wait for her to be ready before he moves forward.

This is how he approaches Anakin as well–he maintains what he thinks are necessary boundaries, he doesn’t push Anakin before he’s ready (trying to respect Anakin’s boundaries, too), he waits for Anakin to come to him, to be ready to talk about what’s troubling him.  He waits for Satine to say the word, because he wants to respect her boundaries as well, he wants for her to be ready to say them, and I don’t think he realizes just how distant he comes off.

And that’s the thing that kills me about Obi-Wan–he feels things so genuinely and truly, but his words and gestures are so understated that they don’t always come across as clearly as he thinks they do.  With someone other than Anakin, this might have been the healthy thing to do, to wait for them to be ready–it’s just that Anakin interprets it as Obi-Wan not caring, when that’s not the case at all, it’s that Obi-Wan absolutely and truly does care about Anakin that makes him so immovable in respecting what he sees as necessary boundaries for Anakin.

(To be fair to Satine, though, how could she have asked him that?  To leave his entire way of life, his home, his culture, his people?  How could she possibly have asked that of him without him offering it first?)

Source: gffa

yayroos:

For everyone’s information:

The plan for the 17th, when the adult content ban comes in, is to protest.

To do that, we are making as much noise either side of the 17th as possible, and using the site as normal.

On the 17th, dead silence.

People are saying log off but what they really mean is don’t open the site or the app.

But, on the 17th make as much noise as possible on every other platform. Tweet about it and post on facebook and instagram and everywhere else.

What this does is causes a massive dip in ad revenue for one single day. That does not make staff think ‘oh everyone’s gone let’s shut down.’ What it actually makes them think is ‘oh shit people aren’t happy and if people don’t keep using our site we’re out of money and out of jobs.’

A boycott reminds a company that the users (consumers) have the power to make their site (business) worthless with one single coordinated decision.

If you want to join in, here’s what to do:

Do:

  • Close all open instances of the app and site on all your devices before the 17th
  • Make posts before and after the 17th on tumblr and other platforms, talking about why this ban is bad
  • Make posts on other sites during the 17th. Flood the official tumblr staff twitter and facebook with your anger and your opinion
  • Come back on the 18th and check in

Don’t:

  • Delete the app from your phone (this doesn’t affect their revenue and since it’s off the store at the moment it’ll be hard to get back)
  • Delete your account. I mean you can if you want to, but if you keep your account and don’t use it you’re saying to staff that there’s still time to save it. If you delete it’s hard work to come back.
  • Open the app or website (including specific blogs)
  • Make any posts (turn down/off your queue and make sure nothing is scheduled)
  • Go quiet elsewhere. Make it clear that this is just about tumblr, not a mass move away from all social media.

Remember: the execs don’t care about anything but money. Shutting down the site means there’s $0 further income from it. That’s their last possible course of action. If we make it clear we’re not happy, they’ll have to do something or we can do more and more until it becomes too expensive.

Protests take commitment. They’re a defiant action against a business that is doing something wrong. They will try to scare you into not participating, because they’re scared. We hold all the power here, sometimes the execs just need to be reminded of that.

Ace Sophie Headcanons

dwarven-beard-spores:

@booksaresacredspew asked for these so here we go!

Ace Sophie who resigned herself to an eventual sex life in the same way she accepted her eventual marriage and eventual failure seeking her fortune, without bothering to think about what she actually wanted. But just because it’s going to happen someday doesn’t mean it has to happen now, and she comes up with reasons why she’s not dating anybody, why she hasn’t kissed anyone yet, why she’s not putting herself out there. 

Ace Sophie who feels threatened by people finding her attractive and dressing as blandly and unflatteringly as possible. If no one takes interest in her because she dresses like an old woman, so much the better. Howl notices her anyway, and it’s terrifying. Who is much more comfortable as an old woman and doesn’t have to worry about people’s eyes on her, or misunderstanding sexual references and intentions. 

Ace Sophie who can’t help jabbing at Howl as he moons about over Lettie. “I hope you aren’t only planning on sleeping with her. You can’t just assume a girl wants that.” Howl replies “you wound me,” in such a dramatic way that Sophie can’t tell if he’s serious or not, and it makes her crosser than ever. 

Ace Sophie who’s anger about falling in love with Howl is partly fueled by the fact that, she’s certain, if they do end up together and do think about sex, one or the other is going to be miserable. Easier to fry Howl with deadly weed killer than deal with that.

Ace Sophie who transforms back into a young woman, who’s so swept up in the moment that she almost forgets to be afraid, who is overjoyed to hug Howl, to be free of their respective curses, who sleeps soundly in her own corner that night, and several nights after. 

Ace Sophie who’s full of pent up frustration because she doesn’t know how to talk to Howl about this, who screws up her courage and ends up announcing in the middle of a completely unrelated conversation that “I don’t want to sleep with you,” and then, in the space it takes Howl to open his mouth, add “and you’re such a self-centered brat that I bet you think it’s about you, but you’re wrong.” Who scowls as Howl turns that over and asks a few questions and finally says “But you still adore me, don’t you?” 

“Of course, you idiot,” Sophie replies. 

“Well, that’s all right then.”

Ace Sophie who develops all sorts of non-sexual intimacy with Howl, from hugging and cuddling, to her brushing his hair, to him peppering her shoulders with kisses to get her to relax. Who hold hands and sit on and swat at each other. Who cast complicated spells together and at each other, who set entirely more things on fire than intended, who become one of the most powerful couples in Ingary.

Ace Sophie. 

Queer HMC: Howl I Sophie 1 . 2 I Michael I Lettie

A fate worse than marriage

animatedamerican:

tigergingicat:

pearwaldorf:

Carmen Machado wrote this amazing article about Donna Noble and how much The Thing That Happened To Her exemplifies the way culture hates women, and how it is one of the most traumatic things that’s ever happened on modern television. 

I ugly-cried my way through reading this, because it still hurts so goddamn much. 

Yes. This. Exactly.

Never over it. Never.

A fate worse than marriage